I do have several impressive moments with my parents but the most unforgettable moment for me is the one that changed me as a person.
This incident was during 2004-05 and in those times, I used to work in my hometown & stayed with my parents. I was married with two kids then. I used to be very ill-tempered and get irritated at the slightest of provocation. It so happened that my mother and me had a intense argument for some bizarre reason. I was so much annoyed that I stopped talking to her for two months. Even though after a day or two I felt bad about the incident but my ego held over me. I tried to speak to her few times but my ego stopped me doing so. The house was tensed and I used to keep grumbling to my sister who stayed with her family in another town. Then one day my sister came down to mediate between both of us. She called all of us to one room and asked us to talk our part. Since I knew I was wrong I let mom start the conversation. My mom was very upset with me and started complaining about me to my sister. She kept talking and I went back my memory lane to realize how my mom grew us up against all odds, her sacrifice, her love and affection for me. During that time, I could never think of a moment when she has abused me or scolded me. All I could remember how she cooked food for us after a hard day’s work; how she’d cook lovely snacks for us. How she would prepare us for exams and so on.
Suddenly I screamed, mom please stop now. You don’t have to explain yourself any more. I am your son & I am admitting my mistakes and swear after today you will see a new me. I will never give you a chance to complain about me anymore.
I kept my words; after that incident I was the most endearing son of my mom and never gave her a chance to complain about me. This incident also marked the beginning a new chapter in my life. All those tempers vanished thin into the air. I changed as a person; as a human; as a parent and as a friend too.
This incident was during 2004-05 and in those times, I used to work in my hometown & stayed with my parents. I was married with two kids then. I used to be very ill-tempered and get irritated at the slightest of provocation. It so happened that my mother and me had a intense argument for some bizarre reason. I was so much annoyed that I stopped talking to her for two months. Even though after a day or two I felt bad about the incident but my ego held over me. I tried to speak to her few times but my ego stopped me doing so. The house was tensed and I used to keep grumbling to my sister who stayed with her family in another town. Then one day my sister came down to mediate between both of us. She called all of us to one room and asked us to talk our part. Since I knew I was wrong I let mom start the conversation. My mom was very upset with me and started complaining about me to my sister. She kept talking and I went back my memory lane to realize how my mom grew us up against all odds, her sacrifice, her love and affection for me. During that time, I could never think of a moment when she has abused me or scolded me. All I could remember how she cooked food for us after a hard day’s work; how she’d cook lovely snacks for us. How she would prepare us for exams and so on.
Suddenly I screamed, mom please stop now. You don’t have to explain yourself any more. I am your son & I am admitting my mistakes and swear after today you will see a new me. I will never give you a chance to complain about me anymore.
I kept my words; after that incident I was the most endearing son of my mom and never gave her a chance to complain about me. This incident also marked the beginning a new chapter in my life. All those tempers vanished thin into the air. I changed as a person; as a human; as a parent and as a friend too.
25th April 2010
Talking about parents, I started understaing my parents better when I became one. I started understanding the pains they had taken to grow us up. I did understand a lot of mistakes that I did as a Child. Now I know, I can't go back and amend them; but all I can do is give them a better son now when they need it. My request to all is please don't hurt your parents, coz if you did, one day your kids could hurt you too. "Life is like a mirror." What you give comes back to you.
nothing in this world can match parents. We can do our bit, but it will not be even a fraction of what they do for us.
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Thanks Animesh
ReplyDeleteYou are a good man.. You are blessed that you came to this understanding now. I know a few men your age that aren't even close to appreciate there parents sacrifices, care and love for them.
ReplyDeleteWe, as Sons/Daughters learn as we grow up and forget that our parents are struggling as They Grow Old.
I think that the Law given by God should be honored to till the end... And beyond! "Honor thy Father and Mother" .. This is without a doubt a commandment with Promise; "so that all Goes Well in Life.."